The vows. Ya know, they’re kind of a big deal when it comes to your wedding. Declarations of love, eternal promises. These aren’t things that just come and go with the ocean tide. So let writing your personal vows be just that, personal. But don’t allow the pressure of writing them overwhelm you. Here are some tips for writing your own wedding vows for your beach wedding. And if the whole vow writing concept has you feeling like you just saw Jaws while sitting on a float, relax. Your Clearwater Beach Wedding Company has some pre-written ones just for you. 😉
Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
Before you begin writing your vows, talk with your spouse about some keys points like:
- Length of vows (these should be no more than 1-2 minutes)
- Tone- humorous, serious, etc.
- Are you writing them together or separately
- Will you share them ahead of time or wait until wedding ceremony
Brainstorm bubbles, webs and tree maps… Remember those words from middle school Language Arts? Well, while your teacher isn’t going to be checking your work here, it is important to get your thoughts organized before writing full on vows. Here are some things to consider:
- When/how did you meet?
- When did you know you were in love with your spouse?
- What are some strengths in your relationships?
- What are relationship weaknesses that may lend themselves to specific promises?
- What challenges have you already supported each other through?
- What do you love/respect/get inspired by most about your spouse?
These are some things to avoid when writing your own wedding vows:
- embarrassing moments
- cliches (this keep your vows authentic and personal)
- inside jokes
Writing Out The Vows:
Once you’ve established some solid ideas, get your pen (or keyboard) in motion. Write out your thoughts and promises. After a day or so, revisit them and make sure everything sounds good still. A good general template to organize your writing:
- Love: Write about what you love about this person, how they’ve changed your life, etc.
- Promise: I promise to _______and ______and _______ (fill in the blank).
- Future: Relationship goals, aspirations, your future together.
Don’t get too caught up in trying to memorize your vows. Read them over a few times to make sure everything is A-ok. Keep your written/typed copy and have them at hand during the ceremony.
Finally, put your vows in a special place (like with your wedding rings or marriage license). The day of your wedding, you can ask your officiant to keep a hold of them just prior to the ceremony and he/she can hand them off at vow time. Or ask someone in the bridal party to be responsible for them. And click the photo below to check out an awesome wedding vow keepsake.