Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

The vows are kind of a big deal when it comes to your wedding. Declarations of love, eternal promise: these aren’t things that just come and go with the ocean tide. So let writing your personal vows be just that, personal. Don’t allow the pressure of writing them overwhelm you. Here are some tips for writing your own wedding vows for your beach wedding. Florida Beach Weddings also has a vows template you can use for your wedding vows or to modify.

How to Write Your Own Beach Wedding Vows

Spouse Talk:

Before you begin writing your vows, talk with your spouse about some keys points like:

  • Length of vows (these should be no more than 1-2 minutes)
  • Do you want serious, funny, quirky etc.
  • Are you writing them together or separately (as a surprise)
  • Will you share them ahead of time or wait until wedding ceremony


Brainstorm a bit: it is important to get your thoughts organized before writing full on vows.  Here are some things to consider:

  • When/how did you meet?
  • When did you know you were in love with your spouse?
  • What are some strengths in your relationships?
  • What are relationship weaknesses that may lend themselves to specific promises?
  • What challenges have you already supported each other through?
  • What do you love/respect/get inspired by most about your future spouse?
  • Use our beach wedding vows template to get started.

Red Flag:

These are some things to avoid when writing your own wedding vows:

  • embarrassing moments
  • cliches (this keep your vows authentic and personal)
  • inside jokes

Writing Out The Vows:

Once you’ve established some solid ideas, get your pen (or keyboard) in motion. Write out your thoughts and promises. After a day or so, revisit them and make sure everything sounds good still. A good general template to organize your writing:

  1. Love: Write about what you love about this person, how they’ve changed your life, etc.
  2. Promise: I promise to _______and ______and _______ (fill in the blank).
  3.  Future: Relationship goals, aspirations, your future together.


Don’t get too caught up in trying to memorize your vows. Read them over a few times to make sure everything is flowing and okay. Keep your written/typed copy and have it on hand during the wedding ceremony. 

Safe Keeping:

Finally, put your vows in a special place (like with your wedding rings or Florida marriage license). The day of your wedding, you can ask your beach wedding officiant to keep hold of them just prior to the ceremony and he/she can hand them off at vow time. Or ask someone in the bridal party to be responsible for them. After you return home together from your destination wedding, you can frame your vows to last forever.

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